Have you ever received an apology only to discover that it wasn’t really remorse that was the motivator, rather a desire to rehash?
That is a pet peeve that I have, yet I’ve certainly been guilty of it too.
As fallen human beings, sometimes our tendency is to add attachments to apologies…
I’m sorry, but…
While we proceed to
justifying wrong actions
put the blame on someone else.
The next time you have occasion to express that you are sorry, make a point to evaluate your attitudes and motives first.
If you need to talk it out, do so, but apologies that we don’t really mean aren’t the wisest means to open up a discussion.
Save your apology for when you are ready to say I’m sorry, asking for forgiveness, and ending with a period.
With some effort, you will be more able to give a true apology with a genuine commitment to restore and set things right.
(graphic from http://littlebirdieblessings.blogspot.com)